My great mentor recently said to me “If I put you in a room with a vicious dog, the dog will eventually emerge from the room….and you won’t. Because alone we are weak”.
This really impacted me, as I reflected on how vulnerable we are in an ‘alone moment’. He continued in his counselling of me and said “yet we can take that very same man, and place him in a community of people who have decided to conquer the solar system”
This community, we call NASA. Together they hatch a plan, and as part of the journey they are about to embark on, they know there will be failures. Rockets may blow up, structures may fail, so they plan for the disaster, because they know its not all going to be ‘good’, ‘good’, ‘good’. He kept talking, “this group of people have conquered the solar system”. How did they do that he explained? Because together we are powerful but alone, we are weak.
Now I have to tell you that I thought LONG AND HARD before deciding to put up this video, as a weekly video. So, let me explain why I made the decision. As a coach and mentor to thousands over the years, I have come across a mass of people who have wandered into their futures, broke. They are broke because they took on the responsibilities alone, just like the man in the room with the dog.
However, in my years of coaching, I have come across a group who wandered into their futures, with enough money to live inspired, to travel when they want to, to eat when and where they chose, and to enjoy the catalogue of possibilities that the universe offers. I want you to come into that moment with me in this present time. Just allow your mind to wander with me as I bring you into the future, here we go…
Just imagine yourself 10 years from now. In that future, you haven’t created a nest egg, you are living week to week, pay check to pay check, or pension to pension. You didn’t plan when you should have and you didn’t act when you could have, and now its all too late. What does that feel like right now? Ok, so lets change that feeling, and let’s explore the POSSIBILITIES THAT ARE OPEN TO YOU RIGHT NOW.
Lets ‘go back to the future’, in this moment. It’s 10 years down the road. Your wealth is above average. You have spent the last 10 years planning AND ACTING in accordance. Your net worth has grown because you determined that you’d never allow yourself to be a ‘financial survivor’.
Now let me bring you back to today. In this moment, you have two choices and both will determine the quality of your future. Here are the choices:
1. You ignore acting outside the square, because stepping outside the square, and doing the things you are afraid of, is uncomfortable. So, you fall for that illusion, and you just keep dreaming as you wander into the field of ‘Wishes and Wants and Hopes’. You keep doing the same old same old, because reflecting on and acting on the future is uncomfortable. So, you do ‘no-thing’, expecting ‘some-thing’ to happen but it doesn’t. Then your future arrives, and so too does the discomfort.
2. The second choice means that you have to plan your future, reflect on the financial inevitably of you acting in accordance with the planning. You step outside your comfort zone. Its feels weird, uncomfortable, and often scary. But you know it’s right. Eventually you wander into your future, and everything is in order. You have literally built a mini empire. You can do what you want, go to where you want, and do it when you want. Now HOW DOES THIS FEEL, right now?
I want you to reflect now on what you can do to build your future. My suggestion…. reach out and send us an email asking us how you can start. We’ll get back to you, because we know it’s important to you. We know YOU are important.
You wake up one morning and in a moment of inspiration, you wake with a new idea. So, you jump out of bed excitedly, forgoing your morning ritual of your partner feeding you grapes and orange juice. Why? Because you’ve just had an inspirational moment as you awoke, so you are on a mission to achievement.
By 12 noon, you have been inundated with all the usual reminders that encourage you to ‘give up’. Your sub-vocalisation (the internal voice of ego) is whispering inside the dungeon of your mind “don’t do it”, “you’re not good enough”, “everyone will think you’re silly”, “what if you fail?”. This….is ego at work.
So, as you read this message, your have three brain regions firing all at one time. Your frontal lobe, the creative centre that makes us different to all of the other creatures on the planet, the limbic system which produces chemicals as you read this message, and your cerebellum where your old limited beliefs take up residency.
The problem is, that two of these brain regions are at war with each other, and in this war, there is only one victim to the atrocity of the ego…. YOU. Yep, you are the victim in this battle of wits. You are imprisoned by your old thoughts which we call the ego. It’s all in the video at the bottom of this message. But just before you go there, let me explain a little more.
The ego, is the subconscious mind. It takes up residence in the cerebellum, the brain region just near the medulla, above the spinal cord which has neurotransmitters for body to brain messages and vice versa. The cerebellum is a brain executive (it’s in charge). It has a direct hotline to your old beliefs, and it helps the body-mind connection (you) to make decisions. Decisions have nothing to do with the past but have everything to do with the future.
BUT, here’s our self-made prison…the cerebellum is polluted with misinformation. It needs information to make decisions, and if that information is incorrect, then the decisions we make are also incorrect, we are basically imprisoned within the walls of a prison of misbelief. A recent study proved, that almost half of the experiences we say we had growing up, never took place, ever. BOOM. That’s huge! Why? Because the brain relies on past experience to make subconscious decisions that affect our futures. Bad info means bad decisions which lead to a bad life. You may already be experiencing that…. without knowing why? You can conclude that you don’t even know yourself.
Here’s an example. Your Uncle Bob has a beard. He’s your Dad’s brother. Your Mum has been mentioning at the dinner table that she doesn’t like Bob. You listen to story, even if you are only listening subconsciously. You try to figure out in your mind why she doesn’t like Uncle Bob, but you can’t quite find a reason.
Then one night, you are allowed to stay up late for the very first time. There’s a thriller on TV rated ‘M’, and because you are getting older, you are allowed watch it. It’s full of high emotion and it’s a little scary too. In the movie there’s a killer on the loose, killing kids at a school summer camp. Your summer camp is coming up next year. Finally, near the end of the movie, the face of the killer is revealed, and he has a beard. You go to bed and you are thinking about the movie, the murderer and the upcoming school camp. Your ‘nurtured nervous system’ goes into protective mode and makes a subconscious decision that men with beards are bad. Bingo, you’ve just built a thought followed by an emotion which we call ‘a habit’. Now, and for the rest of your life, you wont trust men with beards. Why? Because that’s the way the brain works, whether you like it or not. Oh wait…. we forgot about uncle Bob.
Your brain hasn’t finished pattern matching yet. As it does, it subconsciously concludes that Bob too, can’t be trusted. All Bob was actually guilty of was pushing your mums’ emotional buttons at a BBQ 13 years ago, for which she will be eternally unforgiving. What you didn’t know is that lots of people push your mums’ buttons and she gets upset. What you also didn’t know is that uncle Bob is a generous man, with a good heart. He’s a loving and kind dad to his kids. He’s a church goer. In fact, the Pope has been planning on canonising him if he dies. This is how great Bob is.
But that won’t matter to your mind. Unless you have some other stimulus about Bob, your mind is made up. Men with beards cant be trusted, period.
Fast forward to 35 years later, you are putting out a tender to contractors, for the company you are employed by. There are three tender applicants. All of them are coming to your office for a meeting. Two of the three just randomly happen to have beards and the third is an absolute crook.
Who do you think your ‘ego’ will award the job too?
Yep, you got it. Bad information, bad decisions. Watch the video.
IF YOU LOVE YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW….Don’t read this!!!
An addiction is when the body does something that the mind doesn’t want to do. Come with me here…..It’s a Saturday evening and your mother-in-law is coming over for dinner. An hour before hand your partner asks you “Can you please be patient with my Mum tonight and not be mean to her?”. To which you declare to yourself silently; “Ok, tonight I won’t be mean to her, in fact I’m not even going to let her bother me”.
You see, it’s your mother-in-law who pushes your emotional buttons. It’s actually her fault that you become a monster. It’s her fault you are angry, not yours. You’re perfect right?
Thirty minutes before she arrives, you are thinking those nasty thoughts again. In fact, you are already in planning phase as you mentally rehearse the onslaught you will bestow on her if she once again comments on the way you are raising your children. Before she is even present in your house, you are already emotional.
This is called an ADDICTION. Your body is now reliving the experience biologically before she is even present. The woman could be in Guatemala City, and your body and mind are thinking and feeling as though she is right on front of. The body has gone against the wishes in your mind, and can’t be controlled.
So, we take her to the edge of the continental shelf (that is not an aisle in Woolworths). We embalm the poor woman in plastic, tie a blacksmiths anvil around her leg….and push the dear lady into the abyss of the ocean…never to be seen again. Problem solved right? The emotional button-pusher is gone forever. You can now breathe a sigh of relief.
WRONG. We got rid of the trigger, but not the ADDICTION. You can guarantee that within one week, your body will be screaming for the same chemical signature that your mother-in-law triggered. The mind will then respond and find another poor innocent victim for you to become emotional about. It might be your next-door neighbour, or even your Mother.
Do we take them back to the ‘shelf’? Repeat the cycle and before you know you are reading about a serial killer being blamed for random disappearances….AND IT’S YOU.
We have addictions for every long-term emotion. When we attempt to break free, we can’t. So, we are out of control. We are no longer in charge of our emotions, our feelings, nor our own lives……….
My dad was called crazy for talking to machines… who’s crazy now?
My father revolutionarily starting talking to machines over 40 years ago now, long before siri, Alexa and Google Home.
The only problem was the machines didn’t speak back and he looked completely crazy.
People couldn’t understand why someone would repeatedly ask a machine to do things for them. Machines can’t understand you, nor can they do anything except for what they’re programmed to do!
But these same people who thought my old man was crazy, were doing the exact same thing!
We are all constantly talking to the pre-programmed, pre-determined, “brain machine” in our head which works just as mechanically as the old printer my dad would talk to during his nightshift.
Our “brain machine” works by feeding off our old habits and past experiences. It’s constantly re-running scenarios from our childhood, over and over, times of failure and despair, causing us to subconsciously react to situations today with the same demeanour.
Guess what ended up happening to my dad?
Eventually he got the machine to start listening to him, just as easily you can get your brain machine to start listening to you too.
Put on your hiking boots and get ready to start climbing life’s mountain!
The problem using this metaphor is people start picturing Everest or Kilimanjaro, when really it’s much simpler than that. Whenever we feel challenged in life we’re quick to let our emotions override our logical thinking and we create an impossible feat ahead of us.
This means your personal belief system is swinging towards the pessimistic side of the spectrum and I want to help you swing it back over to the optimistic, confident, happy side!
As human beings we have been blessed with a super power that has drastically separated us from all other animal species on this earth. That super power is called creativity. We can turn a small seedling of an idea into a world changing piece of technology. From the supercomputer in your pocket, to a telescope which can see light years away.
And this super power doesn’t just let us design and create the external world, it gives us the power to create and become whoever we want internally too. Unfortunately though, like most super powers it can be used for good and for evil. Too many of us use this power to create internal visions of failure, shame, and self doubt, making us too scared to ever wear the cape in our external world.